Its difficult to know if your lo (little one) needs to see a specialist.
Let me share my story:
It was quite early on at nursery around the age of 18 months, that the teacher called me in over JD (my lo). He would get frustrated and throw things, he even bit one child – the horror – not my gentle, sensitive, happy lo SURELY? This was speech related which I’ll talk about in more detail about in another post (he couldn’t tell the teacher that someone had already bitten him quite severely on the back – and was caught retaliating by biting back).
Not paying attention
In ‘group time’, sitting in a circle, singing nursery rhymes he would be lying on the floor, aggravating the other children by prodding, pulling shoe laces, generally just doing whatever he wanted.
Not paying attention here either!
He couldn’t sit still for one minute. It was often reported back to me that when he was expected to be doing a group activity, he would be wandering up and down the shelves of toys and activities, from one end of the room to the other, not participating and with very little interaction with the other children – playing alongside them, not with them.
He wasn’t great at sharing or changing from one activity to another, which I put down to him being an only child who admittedly was mollycoddled, not just by myself, but by his grandparents 🙂 and the live-in nanny.
Mealtimes would be disruptive, both in and out of nursery. JD was a slow eater, particular to certain textures and fussy. Once he was of an age that he was no longer ‘strapped-in’ for meals, he couldn’t sit in his chair for longer than a minute or two. He’d be under the table, on the table, stood next to the table – anywhere but where he was supposed to be sitting.
JD also had a LOT of sensitivities. From noises (the flush of a toilet, loud bangs, big crowds), to sensations (getting his haircut was torture for the whole family – which I later realised had nothing to do with the scissors. It was the tickles of the cut hair falling on him that he could not stand – nor articulate – until he was about 4).
The most worrying for me as a parent, was a lot of the time he wouldn’t react to me calling him. I could shout his name umpteen times, without him turning or acknowledging me. ‘Not listening’ and ‘impulsiveness’ brought with it several ‘heart stopping’ moments, both in crowds and around traffic.
Lets be honest here, most children do or go through all of these things right?! Well, yes, I guess they do. With ADHD these behaviours are an every day affair. It also lasted up to years longer than it did with most other children.
So, when did I decide to do something about it? It took me a long while. Nearly 18 months later, when JD was 3, he was rejected from kindergarten in an international school.
If you think your lo could have ADHD, check this link out: